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So your kid is in sixth grade now!

Middle school is a big deal and comes with lots of changes. We want you to know that we see you, and we’re here to support you as you navigate the joys and challenges that come with this coming year. Every sixth grader is different, but here are some things you might find helpful.

One question we believe almost every sixth grader is asking is, "Who am I?" Sixth graders are in an extremely inconsistent season. They might want a cell phone, but still sleep with their favorite stuffed animal. Their attire can go from sloppy to overdressed and back. Their emotions can change drastically from hour to hour. For most sixth graders, this is the first year of middle school which means that your kid will be entering an entirely new social context. Your middle schooler will start using a locker, see dating couples, sit through health class, and many other new things that make middle school feel like a crisis. Your sixth grader is navigating the chaos of middle school, and when you affirm their journey, you help them gain stability.

There will most likely be ups and downs between you and your sixth grader. Drama may erupt. Doors might slam. Tears will probably flow. But these turbulent moments are your opportunity to lean in even closer to your kid. Your sixth grader will push you. Show them that they can’t push you away. Show them that regardless of the changes in how they look, act, or feel, your love will be consistent. They will likely break your trust. Show them that they can trust you no matter what.

Sixth graders are motivated by acceptance.

When you provide stability and affirm their value, you are showing them that you are an answer to the question: “Who cares?”

Your sixth grader needs consistent, positive friends and mentors in their life. It’s so important for you to affirm your child’s value, and when their worth is communicated by multiple, trusted sources, it helps reinforce the truths you are instilling. You may start feeling like your sixth grader values a non-parental influence over yours. Don’t be discouraged. Even if they don’t show it often, no one can replace you as the safe haven for your sixth grader.

Ways Your Child is Changing.

PHYSICALLY

  • They need lots of food and 9-11 hours of sleep each night.
  • Girls begin outpacing guys developmentally.
  • Guys experience changes in height and weight, hormone increases, and possible acne.
  • Girls experience changes in height and body shape and may begin menstruation (ages 10-16).

SOCIALLY

  • They seek peer approval and conformity.
  • They often display their worst behavior at home.
  • They value non-parental adult influences.
  • They may have romantic interests and may experiment with physical affection.

MENTALLY

  • They enjoy challenges and learning new skills.
  • Their ability to grasp abstract concepts increases.
  • They can begin seeing the world from different perspectives.
  • They differentiate actions and motives, but often misinterpret motives.

EMOTIONALLY

  • The often mask their emotions to fit in.
  • They benefit from talking about what they are feeling and why.
  • They struggle with decision-making.
  • They may lie often.
  • They may undervalue persistence, effort, and practice.
  • They debate often but argue more from emotion than logic.

The Three Most Important Things to Remember.

If you would like help or ideas on how to do any of these things, we are always here to help!

Resources We Recommend.

Books.

If you’re unable to afford any of these resources, please let us know—we’d love to help!

Teach Your Children Well
This book gives a brilliant, effective and yet simple perspective on how we can help our kids form a deep relationship with Jesus. This is for all of us imperfect parents with limited time and capacity.
Parenting Your Sixth Grader
This book has lots of very insightful information and practical advice on how to engage with your fifth grader. There are also lots of blank pages for processing questions if you find that useful.
Finding the Magic in Middle School
This book offers a positive outlook on the opportunities of middle school over the confusion and struggles. It addresses how parents can help their middle schooler discover who they are, enjoy their friendships, and manage their growing emotions, while maintaining a close relationship with them.
Seen
This short read is incredibly helpful in knowing how to respond to a kid who’s experiencing more anxiety or sadness than normal.
Generation Alpha
This book is based on extensive social demographic research. It dives into the complex experiences and challenges that Generation Alpha (anyone born 2010-2014) faces. It’s a practical guide for how to “best raise, educate, and guide Generation Alpha.”
Parenting Teens with Love and Logic
Even though your sixth grader is not technically a teen yet, this book addresses adolescence rather than just teenagers (many sixth graders are facing the challenges of adolescence). This book addresses a wide range of relevant issues, and has been updated to include cyber-bullying and social media.

Podcasts/Websites.

The Bible App (Loop Plans)
This free app will give your 6th grader access to multiple versions of the Bible. Also, if you search for the Loop Show under the plans tab of the Bible App, there are Bible reading plans that coincide with our Loop teaching schedule. You can access that schedule here.
Parent Cue Blog
This website is crammed with tons of articles on many subjects with practical helpful advice.
Hi, I'm Tim Steitz!

I am the leader of the CCYouth ministry (5th, 6th, and 7th grade) at Christ Community. CCYouth students are in an incredible stage of life where they are ready to engage in community, own their relationship with Jesus, and discover their identity in him. I love getting to be a part of that journey. You parents are the primary champions of your CCYouths, and I want to join you in their corner. Please reach out to me if you have any questions about CCYouth, or if you’d just like to chat!

CCYouth is for fifth, sixth, and seventh graders and meets during every adult weekend service. We also have quarterly Youth Nights on Fridays (details communicated in advance), and midweek leadership opportunities for CCYouth students that are ready for a next step (details communicated in advance).